Hey there 😉 So I’m 21 years old and I’m realizing that it’s kind of hard for me to have an orgasm.. I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions or anything I should try? I’ve already tried all the stuff that everyone talks about, I need something .. special 😉
Everybody is different so it is really hard to answer. Are you able to have orgasms now at all or do you have them but with difficulty? Do you need a lot of pressure against your clitoris or just a little?
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It’s true everyone is different – in a lot of ways. What mentally turns you on, how and where you like to me touched, but also your actual anatomy. Just like each penis is different so each woman is shaped a little different too.
Some women have various parts of their anatomy that are different sizes, with differing amounts of tissue. One example is the clitoral hood. I’d recommend getting comfortable on your bed or in the bath tub and using a hand held mirror to just look at yourself identifying different anatomical parts, feeling each, pushing, stretching, etc to see what they look like and what feels good while looking. It’s possible you have a generous amount of tissue over your clitoris – if this is the case, you can pull back the tissue to expose the clit which will of course be more sensitive w/o it’s little protector in place.
Also try masturbating in a relaxed state of mind….what relaxes you? Taking a bath, watching a movie, whatever. Don’t think of it in terms of you’re relaxing to get an orgasm. In fact pretend that is absolutely not what you’re trying to do. Afterward start touching yourself, but enjoy each stroke, sensation, feeling in and of itself, w/o thinking that it’s the means to an end.
Try feeling it as the one being touched and then try to mentally project yourself just into your hand, so all you feel is what your fingers are feeling. (That’s when I notice how wet I am/or not and I realize then why it must feel so good for a penis to be in that.)
Just the pressure of wanting/having to have an orgasm sometimes does the opposite. Perhaps try a Yoni massage on yourself (usually is done by another person), where the goal isn’t orgasm at all. I’ve even told myself before I wasn’t allowed come….it’s mind games all the way.
If you remember that your mind is the most orgasmic organ you have, you can make your body do almost anything.
Don’t stress too much though -of course each woman is different, but women don’t usually reach their sexual peak until their late 20’s/early 30’s. You have a few years to figure out what gets you off, like that!
Have fun fingering it out!