Are You Ready, Ladies?
Finally, the female experience of self-pleasure!
YES, It’s True — females masturbate, too. Although we may not feel the same physical urgency to masturbate as guys (at least not as often as guys), girls definitely experience sexual arousal, particularly during puberty. It is often not only a physical experience but an emotional one as well. Remember all of those screaming, crying girls at the Beatles’ concerts? That was a heavily hormone-influenced response.
Many women, whether they have masturbated or not, feel embarrassed or ashamed about masturbation. It is not usually a subject shared with your girlfriends. Some girls, anxious to please their boyfriend or to try expressing their own sexuality, will have sexual intercourse long before they are ready to deal with the emotional impact that goes with it. Masturbation is a healthy way for females to satisfy their sexual feelings and learn about their own sexual response. It is particularly important for a woman to understand her own body and sexual response, because it is not something that will be learned from a male lover — another mistake many of us make. (Okay, before I get nasty e-mail from guys reading this page, let me say that I’m sure there have been some men out there who have enlightened their female lovers, but I think most women would be safer not to depend on it.) For this reason, it is not surprising that many women have been sexually active for years with male lovers but have NEVER EXPERIENCED AN ORGASM. This is a tragedy — and it definitely reinforces the importance of a woman being in touch with her own body and sexual response.
The Basics Of Female Masturbation
Time, mood, place.
One of the most important things to realize when masturbating is that you need to be relaxed and undistributed in order to really enjoy the experience. Think of this as your time. Take the phone off the hook, lock the door and spend some quality time with yourself. I’m aware that this is not always easy as it sounds, especially if like me you have kids and a Hubby, but I really can’t stress enough how important it is to try to find time. Women fill so many different roles, are many things to many people, that it’s easy to forget that you are also a person. Taking time for yourself is not being selfish and is not something you should feel guilty about. Everyone needs to take some time away from the rigors of the outside world once in a while.
How you find this time is up to you. One of the ways I do it is to go to the one safe haven in our house, the bathroom. It has a lock; it has a shower and a nice long tub for me to lie in. I can light candles or leave the main light on, I can read a book in peace and I have a very good masturbation tool in the shower head as well as a pair of hands at my disposal. [One word of warning here if you normally masturbate with a vibrator, please make sure it’s waterproof before using it in the bathtub or shower, especially if you normally use an electric one!! I’m told that electrocution is not a pleasant experience!! ]
Another option is of course the bedroom. You may want to consider putting a lock on the door, so you can completely relax without fear of intrusion. Again you have a ready-made multitude of tools at your disposal here to aid your experience if you so wish. Most bedrooms contain a mirror, in many cases a full length one