Kissing is an intimate form of communication. A kiss can convey all sorts of messages just by how it is delivered. A kiss can express lust, empathy, sympathy, sadness, or finality. A kiss can be cute, polite, invitational, passionate, or aloof. The English language is filled with cliches such as the kiss of death, kiss off, and kiss my ass.
Everyone remembers their first knee-buckling kiss. Although I had kissed many men in my quest to find my prince, many of who were fabulous kissers, the first kiss from the man who was to become Mr. Amazon was simply magical. We were at a late night movie and he leaned over and kissed the top of my head. A sweet, romantic, and spontaneous move that made my toes curl. Nothing more until we left the theater, but I had a hard time concentrating on the rest of the movie. It was just a simple little kiss on the top of my head.
Caution: Although this is a gross generalization it is worth mentioning; men often think of a kiss as a means to an end – a necessary but frivolous step on the way to eventual sex. Women tend to think of it as an event unto itself. Armed with this knowledge, most men who take the time to develop into good passionate, thoughtful kissers generally become better lovers. Women who are aware of this dichotomy realize that a kiss can open the doors to actions they may not intend.
This article is intended as a step-by-step introduction to the first kiss with someone new. It covers some of the details to attend to before the kiss, how to read the body language of your date to determine if they are receptive and then the dos and don’ts for a good kiss. Those readers that think they are already phenomenal kissers will probably be well served by taking this refresher course. As time warrants an advanced kissing course will be posted at this site.
Kissing 101 – The Basics: Everyone worries about the first kiss with a new partner. Yes, even veterans that have been around the bussing block a hundred times stress about it. Will they respond positively? Will I get my face slapped? What if they don’t like the way I kiss? What if I don’t like the way they kiss? The best way to control anxiety is to prepare yourself both with knowledge and getting your “kissing units” ready. Before even getting into the situation of a kiss there are some things you can do to lessen the chances of rejection….
Oral Hygiene.
1. Take care of necessary dental work- bleeding gums and cavities not only are dangerous to your health but they make your mouth unsightly as well as contribute to bad breath.
2. Heal chapped lips. Use Vaseline or lip balm regularly before the big date.
3. Use lipstick sparingly. Thick red or black lipstick may be all the rage, but they don’t make your lips look kissable.
4. Guys need to pay attention to their beards. If you have one, make sure it is clean. No girl wants to sample the soup you had for lunch. If she did, she would have ordered it herself. If you are clean-shaven, make sure your face is as smooth as a baby’s butt. There is not much worse then coming home from a date with irritating stubble burn around the mouth. Also go easy on the aftershave. What might smell great from several feet away can be bothersome when her nose is up against your skin.
5. Brush your teeth and tongue well.
6. Use mouthwash or breath spray, especially if you are a smoker or