Once in a while a very timely book drops onto my desk, and this was one of those books. I turned 50 last month, so reading this book seemed like, well, the natural thing to do. I can tell you first hand that my body is changing and so is my sex drive, and not always in a direction I would like, and I think that’s true for many other women of my age.
Sometimes when I read book that are labelled as the ultimate guide to anything, I find my eyes rolling a little, but in this case, the book does live up to it’s billing. In-between these 396 pages, you will find a ton of knowledge that will guide you though the next 30 years of your life and hopefully beyond, and more than that, possibly give you a new perspective on your sexuality as you age.
The book begins by outlining so many of the myths that are prevalent in society as regards sex and aging. Old people don’t have sex, old people can’t have sex, down to the simple urrrrgggghhh, that’s gross that I occasionally get from my own kids when sex comes into the conversation. Then it starts to bust them for what they really are, myths and lies. If you think that sex ends after 50 you couldn’t be more wrong according to author Joan Price, who at 71 is living proof that whilst sexuality becomes something of a different animal, it’s still alive and kicking in all of us.
One of my favorite things about this book, is the no nonsense approach that Ms Price took, she tells it like it is, but with the help of other seniors, who are happy to tell their sexual stories, both good and bad. This book covers every topic you can think of, sex without erections, the new rules of dating, and a those are just two examples. More than that it helps you think of sex in a very different way, because with an aging body, it’s not always possible to do what you mind wants to. So you can no longer swing from the chandelier or your partner cannot get an erection, or at least one that last for more than a few minutes, so what? There are plenty of other ways to please either yourself, or your partner sexually and the one thing above all else I took from this book was that figuring out those ways was a journey in and of itself.
I also agree with Ms Price in her very strong stance that is prevalent throughout the book. That if you stop thinking of yourself as a sexual being because you are older, and in many ways society tells us this, then the chances are that you are likely to become less sexual. Even the younger set are told that good sex starts in the mind, and yet so many times we forget that. She is also a strong proponent of use it or lose it. In other words if you stop practicing sex in whatever form that might take, you are likely to become less sexual as you age.
Despite what society would like us to think, the truth is that sex after 50 can be more freeing in many ways, especially for women, is another message that came through in this book. As we pass menopause, we no longer have the worries of pregnancy, although Ms Price does have a chapter devoted to safer sex and it’s something that is important at any age.
This book as I said at the beginning of this review is a must have, for anyone over the age of 50 and this includes both sexes. I found it to be a powerful reminder that as my body ages, I can still find sexual satisfaction and to not do so would likely be detrimental to my health.
You can purchase your own copy of The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty: How to Maintain – or Regain – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life
by simply clicking on the link, and I strongly recommend doing so.