All over the world, Femdom webcam sites and services are skyrocketing in popularity. Ask any seasoned veteran like IshtarXXX and they’ll tell you the same – people’s kinks are getting kinkier all the time.
For the Dommes that are dominating (pun intended) the profession, the appeal is obvious. Along with satisfying their own sexual appetites, there’s money to be made wherever there’s demand. And to say that demand for Femdom services was elevated right now would be a major understatement.
But what about the appeal of the whole thing when it comes to those who pay good money to be used and abused by a Domme? Where does the satisfaction come from when watching the action unfold via a Femdom webcam at a remote location?
As always, you have to go direct to those who are into the whole thing to find out. That’s why we asked two regular customers of IshtarXXX how they got into Femdom, along with why they’re so happy to pay decent sums of money to their Domme.
Jacob H, Pittsburg
Thinking back, I guess I was actually pretty young when I developed an obsession with punishment and pain. Just to clarify at this point, I was never hit or mistreated by my parents in any way. I come from a very close and loving family and my upbringing was more or less idyllic.
I’m not sure how or why it came to be, but I accidentally found that subjecting myself to pain while masturbating intensified the experience massively. I went through a couple of tediously normal relationships in my teens, before deciding to bite the bullet and visit a Domme. I found an ad in a nearby phonebox (classy right?) and set it up.
That’s more or less when I knew there was no going back. A handful of meetings later, I’d reached the conclusion that humiliation and submissiveness were not my thing. I was more into the actual physical pain of Femdom, though within boundaries that prevented me getting seriously hurt.
Why do I pay for pain? I can’t explain it, but it’s got something to do with the challenge of the whole thing. It’s almost like putting yourself through something that’s hard and tests your wit, in order to get a feeling of satisfaction on the other side.
I don’t ‘enjoy’ being in pain in a day-to-day sense, but when it accompanies anything sexual it drives me crazy. To the point where I even like watching it happen to other people – live webcams have been a godsend during lockdown!
I wouldn’t expect other people to get it – I still have a hard time explaining it all to myself!
Gareth A, South London
Why pain? Jesus, if I only had a penny for every time I’ve been asked that question!
Why I use Domme services is simple – I wouldn’t dream of asking my wife to go that far beyond the comfort zone. I’m happy in my marriage and I adore my wife, but out of respect I ensure I keep my cravings under wraps.
I don’t see it as cheating at all. That’s mainly due to the fact that I have never actually met my Domme in person. I can’t see it as cheating if there’s no physical contact involved – she tells me what to do and I do it.
You’d probably have no idea how much I like S&M to look at me! Though I’d say it’s probably the same for most – we’re not all the freaks and weirdos portrayed on TV.
The psychology of it all is beyond me – I just accept cravings for what they are. There’s something about surrendering yourself to a Domme that’s horny as hell. I don’t normally like being told what to do – actually despise it when people try to control me in my normal life.
Maybe that’s why it gets me going so much – I let someone I don’t even know treat me in a way I wouldn’t let my friends, family or colleagues treat me in a million years.
When all the current crap is over and done with, I’d love to meet up with a real-life Domme and see how things play out. Though to be honest I’m not sure how I’d feel about the whole fidelity thing – I’ve so far only interacted with them online.
Still, I guess there’s only one way to find out…I just need to keep it quiet!