This weeks Bloggers Spotlight takes us to the realm of InsatiableDesire.Com and the wonderful world of Rayne. Rayne kindly took some time out of her busy schedule and answered some questions about her wonderfully kinky but desirable blog:
Q: Why a blog about kink, and how would you define kink as it relates to your blog insatiable desire as not all kinks are created equal?
When I finally admitted to M (my owner/husband) that I was interested in wearing his collar, he sent me to the internet to research what I was asking for so I’d understand what I was getting myself into. Back then, there were very few blogs about dominant/submissive (or any other top/bottom type) relationships, and the few that existed were written by people who swore on everything holy that they never did anything wrong. Ever.
By the time I realized that, I’d already been in trouble more times than I could count. I was like, “Well, shit. I’m never gonna get this slavery gig down, because I’m a royal fuck up.” And M was like, “Ffs. I think it’s more likely that they just don’t air their dirty laundry.”
So I started talking to other submissives and slaves online, and they were always talking about how they failed at what they did because soandso’s blog said bottoms don’t get in trouble; they just do what they’re told. And I got mad.
Putting on a collar doesn’t make you suddenly perfect. Shit happens. People screw up. Even dominants, from time to time, though don’t tell them I said that!
So! I asked for permission to start a blog. Our friend named it Insatiable Desire because M would take me offline to use and abuse me, and when we got back online, I’d be complaining about being horny again within minutes. And the rest, as they say, is history.
Define kink, huh? That’s a toughie.
With regard to society, a kink is a sexual desire that goes against the norm. Our kinks, though, are pretty specific, and mostly involve sex in some way. We’re into (consensual) force, S&M, and humiliation play. I play the modern-day house slave with a penchant for writing, which means I do most of the cooking, cleaning, and animal tending. M identifies as a master, which means he’s in control of me always. I identify as a pleasure slave, which means I do whatever brings him pleasure…right down to taking out the trash.
As for how kink pertains to Insatiable Desire…well, I’m a “live and let live” kinda gal, so the secondary message of ID is that we, within the BDSM community, should be accepting of others’ kinks, provided they’re practiced in a safe (or as safe as possible…let’s face it. Kink is dangerous!) and consensual setting.
Q: I love your section called, no stupid kink questions and I have to ask what is the stupidist question you’ve ever been asked about kink?
Thank you! The stupidest question…God, there have been a lot.
The one I get most often is, “Don’t you think you’re setting the Women’s Movement back a little?”
And the answer is no. I don’t.
From where I sit, the Women’s Movement is more about giving women the same rights as men, right down to allow