Written By” Jenne
” I feel that age plays a big part in people’s attitudes to foreplay. As a young male, I, like all other testosterone charged males, was hell bent on getting to the goal as quickly as possible without any regard for the state of arousal of my female friend at the time. Foreplay was something that was exciting particularly if the girl was recently unknown. The thrill was to see how far I could get, i.e. the kiss, the outside of the clothing over the breasts until the final goal was reached. In my youth, back in the 50’s, intercourse was almost impossible because of social attitudes in those days. Girls these days are much more open and educated about sex and participate in sexual activity more freely than in my younger days. ”
Whilst I’m the first to admit that indulging in a good old-fashioned wham, bam thanks you ma’am quickie can be fun, I do love to spend an occasional evening delving into the sensual word of foreplay. I’ve had many partners over the years that seem to think that foreplay consists of kissing my neck, moving onto my breasts, and then three minutes of oral followed by penetration. I knew where they were going and what they were going to do next and although it was fun it was never fulfilling, always feeling as though they were just going through the motions and the ultimate goal was penetration. As one Clitical member put it:
“As the male gets older and more experienced, he enjoys foreplay for what it really is. The opportunity to arouse his partner so that by the time penetration is achieved, she is in the most receptive mood possible and thus more likely to enjoy coupling in the best way possible. ”
Just incase your wondering what foreplay is, it includes a huge variety of activities from kissing and cuddling to oral sex and everything in between. One way I like to approach foreplay is to think of my partner’s body as a map. Think about it. Have you really explored every crack and crevice of their body? If you haven’t or think you might have missed a bit then an evening of foreplay can certainly bring some spark back into a relationship.
For me, foreplay often starts long before I’ve actually reached the bedroom. In fact it often starts at work with a phone call. The most important sexual organ is your brain. It’s can be fun to mentally tease your partner when you are out at dinner as to what might transpire later, or why not leave him a message on his answering machine at work telling him what you have planned for that evening. Don’t give everything away, just hinting is far more fun, or so I’ve found.
Foreplay can also take the form of simple kisses and cuddles. After a long day at the typewriter I like nothing more than to relax with my partner and indulge in some simple kissing and cuddling, which often leads to other things.
“I can get to my wife with long sessions of kissing only. She loves to kiss, and I do too. If we do nothing else, she eventually melts. We have even played a game where the rule is nothing BUT kissing. Believe me when I tell you she was like a firecracker when she finally blew. ”
One of the things that people often complain about is that foreplay takes too much time. Trust me when I say it’s worth the effort of setting aside some special time for just you and your partner. Having two kids myself I understand all to well how hard this can be. But if you have to, make a foreplay appointment in advance. Some people may say that sex should be spontaneous, but if sex never happens or is always hurried,