1. More of the brain is dedicated to touch than to any other sense. Physical touch not only feels nice, it’s essential for our well-being. Experts claim that when infants don’t receive enough touching, it can stunt their growth, sometimes dramatically. We all need to be touched. Touch heals and comforts.

2. The genitals are not the only body parts that receive more blood flow during arousal, making them more alert and more sensitive to stimulation. The skin is the largest organ of the human body. It’s one big erogenous zone. Unfortunately, many of us seem to only want to explore a few small square inches of it.

3. Many women find it difficult to become fully aroused with the limited, largely genital touching that most men provide. A man with a slow, soft touch is a rare find that a lady won’t soon let go of or forget.

4. One of the reasons that many men seem to have trouble embracing total-body lovemaking is that they see touching as being a part of foreplay, which suggests it’s something that is to be done before the real sex begins. This isn’t correct. Just because the lovemaking starts doesn’t mean the touching should stop.

5. Explore your partner’s entire body. Everything can be an erogenous zone. Try stimulating your partner’s earlobes, the base of their neck, their inner thighs, the insides of their elbows, the bottoms of their feet, the skin under and to the sides of their breasts, the soft area of skin behind their ears, the palms of their hands, their belly button, the backs of their knees, their armpits, the bridge of their nose, their eyelids, and their lower back. Gently kiss their fingertips. Fingers and toes can be incredibly sensual. Sucking them can be pretty intense. Not everything will do it for every person. Explore every inch of your partner’s body. If you find a spot they like, mark it with icing, then come back later and lick all the icing off the different spots.

6. There are many ways you can touch your partner’s various body parts. Try rubbing, stroking, tapping, lightly scratching, lightly pinching, tickling, tugging, pushing, pulling, poking, lightly slapping, lightly biting, licking, sucking, and kissing, to name a few. See which methods they respond best to. Any kind of touching is acceptable. The only rules are that the touch be pleasurable and that you explore every possible place you can reach.

7. Zig-Zag Technique: As surprising as it may seem at first, our skin is our largest sex organ. As a result, anywhere that we have skin can become an erogenous zone, depending on how you touch it. Take your fingertips in a zig-zag motion and run them all over your partner’s body. The reason that a zig-zag motion works better than a straight line is because with the straight line, the little nerves of your partner’s skin in the path of your straight line "know" they are going to be touched. With a zig-zag motion, the little nerves "hope" they will be touched. This produces a different, more pleasant effect. Try it on your own arm and feel the difference.

8. Skin without hair seems to be more sensitive than skin with hair.

9. Women have the same number of nerves that men have, but generally have smaller bodies, so their nerves are more concentrated than ours are. They also have thinner skin and less hair than we do, so the sensations are more easily and more strongly felt.

10. The last thing you want your partner to feel obligated to do after a nice long body massage is to get up and use all of those freshly relaxed muscles to return the favor. That defeats the purpose. Let them relax. Let it be a gift. They can return the favor next time.

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