Written By: C. Michael Smith
Introduction: Your first time, like everyone else’s, is more likely to be clumsy, awkward, confusing, and uncomfortable than earthmoving and glorious. It may even be over just moments after it begins.
I don’t mean to paint you a sad, gray picture, though. Your first time doesn’t have to be painful, fearful, or disappointing if you arm yourself with realistic expectations, lots of knowledge, and sensible preparation.
Let’s talk about some issues you should consider before taking the big plunge, let’s learn how to best prepare for first time sex, let’s discover what you can realistically expect, let’s ease your concerns about the things that you may be worried about, and let’s discuss what you need to know to make the most of your first time.
What To Consider: There are some issues you need to consider before having first time sex.
. Are You Ready?
If you are planning to give up your virginity just because you have reached a certain age, you think all of your friends are doing it, because your partner is constantly nagging you about having sex with them, because you think it will miraculously save your troubled relationship, you think it will guarantee a more committed relationship, you think it will make your partner love you more, or you think it will make your partner stay with you longer and keep them from leaving you, then I think you are doing it for the wrong reasons and you may wish to reconsider your decision to have first time sex at this time.
. Is This The Person I Want To Lose My Virginity To?
The next thing to consider is the person you are with. Remember that you can only give your virginity away one time and you will remember it for the rest of your life, so choose wisely. Make sure you will not regret this decision.
. How To Best Prepare:
My advice is that when you decide you are ready to have sex for the first time, plan your time spent together so that you always have protection, lubrication, and other needed items handy, but don’t plan the intercourse.
In other words, don’t plan the act itself, but plan around the act. Let that happen naturally. Just make sure you always have the items you need handy in case it happens. This should reduce a lot of the un-needed nervousness and excessive fore-thought while still making sure you will have a safe and protected experience with birth control, lubrication, and condoms.
There are some things you need to know to best prepare yourself for having sex for the first time.
The most important thing you need to know is to use protection.
Gain some experience ahead of time. Get to know your body and your sexual response. Get to know your partner’s body, as well.
Simulate the event in advance. During heavy make-out sessions, practice the thrusting motions of intercourse with your clothes on. Grind against each other.
If you have friends or a sibling that have had sex, talk to them to see what their experience was like.
No bragging to friends about what you are planning to do.
Great communication is vital in any sexual relationship. Be sure to talk to your partner ahead of time about expectations and concerns.
You’ll also want to have an open and honest discussion with your partner about their sexual history, if they have one. Did you partner use protection against STDs with their previous partner/s? Does your partner have an STD? Have they been tested recently?
Discuss possible sexual consequences. What will you do if you