Description: The vulva is the term that refers to all of the woman’s externally visible genitalia. Many people commonly make the mistake of referring to the vulva as the vagina, but the vagina is actually just the internal canal. Everything you can see from the outside is referred to as the vulva.
Vulvas vary in appearance from one lady to the next. No two are exactly alike. Joanie Blank has a book out called ‘Femalia’ that showcases the variety in vulva appearance. It contains close up shots of many different vulvas, so you can get an idea of how they vary and can learn to appreciate their uniqueness.
What do you need to know about it?
Ladies:
· Grab a hand mirror, get naked, get comfortable, and examine your vulva up close and personal. Locate all of your important parts. You wouldn’t believe how many women have never engaged in self-exploration. There are many reasons you should do so. First, it helps if you can locate, identify, and name all your body parts when you go see your doctor. This may be a bit uncomfortable for you, but it is definitely less embarrassing than trying to explain to your doctor that your “kitty” hurts, and it’s definitely more effective than telling the doctor that you hurt “down there”. It’s also good to know what your vulva looks like in its healthy state, so you can identify problems if things don’t look quite right. Another major benefit of self-exploration is becoming familiar with your body, what makes it feel good, and what leads you to orgasm. This will lead to better sex.
· Ladies, you wouldn’t believe the number of guys who have never examined a woman up close and personal. No wonder most of us are not great lovers. One of the best things you can do for your guy is to let him examine your body. Guys like to know what things looks like and how they work. We are naturally curious that way. If you are shy about letting him explore your naked body, then make the room as dark as possible, lay back and get very comfortable, and then give your man a flashlight. The flashlight will let him see your body in parts instead of as a whole. This may make you feel more at ease.
Letting your man explore your body is a terrific idea because it lets him learn more about it and become more familiar with it. In the long run, it is sure to make your physical relationship
so much better. If you are brave, let him do it with the lights on. If you are REALLY brave, let him buy a speculum from the local adult toy shop (or he can order one online) and let him explore your insides!
Guys:
· Guys, don’t touch her vulva right away. Be sure to engage in lots of teasing, taunting, and tantalizing, first.
Both:
· As a general rule, the areas of the vulva that are hairless seem to be more sensitive than the areas covered by hair.
· 1/3 of American women think their vulvas are unattractive.
How do you stimulate it?
· Vulva Exploration Clock Technique: Imagine that her vulva is a clock. (Her externally visible genitalia is called the vulva. The vagina actually refers only to the canal which is not actually visible from the outside – except the opening.) Anyway, imagine her vulva is a clock. At 12:00, there’s the clitoris. At 6:00, her vaginal opening. This technique helps you explore the entire vulva with your tongue – not just the clit. Start at the 12:00 position with your tongue. Now go in a clockwise direction and focus for a while on each “time” period until you get back to 12:00. You may find other areas of the vulva besides just the 12:00 and 6:00 positions that give her tremendous pleasure. This is a great